We all know that keeping your marriage fun, fresh, and exciting can be a challenge for those who have children, and especially if your children are not yet fully self-sufficient. Here are some things you can do to ensure you keep things flirty, exciting, and fresh with your spouse!
Flirt with each other... Often. Just like you did when you wanted to get his attention when you first met.
Keep it cute. Flip your hair and hold in your stomach. Wash your face, brush your teeth, comb your hair, and put on some lip gloss and earrings as soon as you wake up.
Find reasons to touch each other. If you know how to tie a tie, tie his before you head to church. Hold hands while you walk through the mall. Rest your hand on his knee while you watch TV together.
Role Play. When you are out in public, pretend like you don’t know each other and like you’re meeting for the first time. For example, if you are out shopping at the mall, and he says something to you, start out with,”Excuse me? Do I know you?” Continue the conversation as if you don’t know him until he starts playing along. You can take this as far as you want. (Adding sexy bedroom costumes always keeps things super exciting.)
Designate a date night whether it’s monthly or bi-weekly. No matter how busy your schedules are, MAKE... IT... HAPPEN. You have to put the time in to make it work!
Go to an annual marriage retreat. This is especially beneficial when you go to a retreat that is sponsored by your church, as they will focus on Biblical marriage principles. Investing in your marriage is one of the best things you can do. Educating yourself on how to handle and work through difficult situations, how to effectively communicate and conflict resolution are key to a great marriage.
Cuddle often. Even if you’re only watching TV.
Put away the flannel pajamas, better yet… burn them right now and wear skimpy sexy nighties to bed. It will boost your confidence and your husband will love them. Make it a point to do this nightly so that it soon becomes second nature.
Have some mommy daddy time while the children are sleeping. For those of you who allow your children to sleep with you, break this bad habit immediately. There is absolutely no way you I will be able to have time alone to yourselves if your children sleep with you each night. That alone will put a damper on your marriage.
For those of you who don’t have children yet, don’t let your children sleep in your bed. Once you do so, they will be in your bed for years to come and will be a super hard habit to get them out of.
10. Cook for him with nothing but an apron and some sexy stilettos on. Yes, you can still do this with children. You just have to be a little more creative. For example, you can wake up earlier than everyone else, cook in your pjs and change into the apron and stilettos, serving him breakfast in bed. (I actually think I like this idea better. :) )
11. Pick a certain month of the year or a certain day of the week to work on your intimacy. For instance, some couples have what they call “Sexy September” while others have “Naked Thursdays” LOL. Do what works for you and your hubby.
The whole point of these ideas is to help you and your husband get some sexy and excitement back in your lives. No marriage will last if you are miserable, predictable, stale and prudish. Or if the two of you are constantly at each other’s throats. What are some things you have done to keep your marriage fresh and exciting?