Happy New Year my Luvs! I hope the start to everyone’s year has begun with intention, focus and determination. I don’t know about you, but I am determined to make 2019 a year of making moves and enjoying life with my loved ones. I have noticed that as of late, people don’t make new year’s resolutions as often as they should. I’m assuming it’s because the majority of the time new year’s resolutions are neglected come March. Or even prior to that for some - leaving people feeling a bit defeated because they didn’t make the progress they wanted to make by sticking with the commitment they made to themselves at the beginning of the year. Not that I have had an issue with sticking with my resolutions, because I tend to be disciplined enough to stick with my resolutions for the majority of the year. But this year, I decided to just focus on becoming better all around - primarily focusing on my self. Like most mothers who have a ton of items on their plates, I have spent less time pampering myself and doing things I enjoy. But not this year, honey chile. I am putting me back at the top of my list of priorities and you should too. Don’t gt me wrong. By no means am I saying you should put everything and everyone around you on the back burner, I am just saying we need to make more of an effort to spend more time taking care of ourselves.
Just the other day, I was speaking with a few of my friends who are a part of a women’s entrepreneurial group that we founded and they were saying that instead of creating new years resolutions, they have created mantras for this year. I love this idea. One of them was saying her mantra is “true to my word”. If she makes a commitment to go somewhere, she is going to go. And if she isn’t interested in attending a function, she is going to say no off the break rather than saying she may go and later making up an excuse not to attend.
Our other friend was saying her mantra is, “I don’t have to”. And that can be used for any circumstance. It could be used when that new guy you met asked you why you didn’t text or all him back. Or why you don’t see him again after that first date. You simply don’t have to.
My mantra is more so slow to down, live and breath. I wouldn’t say that I am a complete Type A, but I have some tendencies. And I am often one who will focus so much on knocking things off my to do list that I am not taking time out to just chill and watch TV, read, or spend time with my loved ones, which leaves me feeling absolutely exhausted at times. I cannot continue to live my life that way. If so, before I know it, I will be 50 and have done absolutely nothing in life but work, take care of my family and have a clean house. That is not the life I want to live. Now I am all about making memories. Not about getting the biggest house or the newest designer bag or about turning up at the club, but about unique experiences that will make me and my son well rounded individuals. Experiences that allow us to enjoy this beautiful world God has blessed us with and to live a truly fulfilled life.
Whether you’ve decided to create new year’s resolutions or you’ve created a mantra for the near year, here is how you can remain committed to your 2019 goals. If you have decided to make a new year’s resolution, start small. Don’t include 10 small changes you want to make. Instead, set one or two resolutions so you can spend more time strategizing and soul searching how you will make those changes in the year - making any necessary adjustments along the way.
I know it will get hard at times, but remember, it takes twenty-one days to make or break a habit. Once you hit that twenty-one day mark of sticking with your changes, you have just about met your goal. Consistency is key.
Your mindset also has a lot to do with whether or not you will stick with your resolutions or whatever changes you would like to make in the new year. Go into it with a positive mindset and don’t let anyone change your mind. Along with your words, your mindset has so much power. Have confidence, remain positive, stay determined, and make up your mind that you can and you will make the changes this year that are important for you to become a better person.
In conclusion, rather than setting a new year’s resolution, you can always create a new mantra to live by. Repeat that mantra to yourself out loud when you are feeling discouraged, in a bind, or lacking the strength and determination you need to attain your goals. Surround your self with positive people and encourage yourself. You can do anything you put your mind too. Just remember… you can and you will.