We all fall victim to it at some point. It either begins as we scroll through our social media news feeds and see pictures of those we follow on trips, snuggled up with their spouses, buying new homes, new cars, etc. As a result, we begin to feel as if the lives we live are not enough. We wonder how life would have been had we taken a different career path, if we would have married rich, or if we would have moved to an exciting city similar to LA like we dreamed of in college, or if we decided not to have children so that we could spend all of the money we earned traveling, shopping, and purchasing the finer things in life. After these thoughts flood our minds, we begin to feel poorly about some of the decisions we have made in our lives. And we begin to feel like the lives we live aren’t that significant or exciting. At this point, you can do one of two things. You can either tell yourself to stop tripping and to thank God for all of your amazing blessings. And remind yourself that while your Instagram friends may look like their lives are all rainbows and butterflies, our perception is not reality. No matter how perfect someone else's life may seem, they still have their issues just like everyone else because we are all human and life happens to each and every one of us. Of course people are only going to post a portion of their lives. Probably even less than 50 percent so that they create a certain image for themselves and that’s alright. We just have to remember to not fall victim to the comparison game. We are all living the lives we are meant to live. And if you are unhappy with your current circumstances, by all means, do what you have to do (as long as it is moral and honorable of course) to change it. Educate yourself, network, and ask questions. You have the ability to change your future. Or better yet, it may be time for a social media cleanse. Take some time to get off social media, spend some time with yourself, your loved ones and God to remind yourself of how fulfilling your life is. Even without the glitz and glamour. You are extremely blessed and probably have a few things that those you admire are lacking. Don’t underestimate how amazing you are. And most importantly, don’t fall victim to the comparison game. I can assure you that it isn’t as poppin’ as you think it may be. I’m just saying.
How do you beat these negative feelings that result from comparing yourself to others?
1) Look in the mirror and tell yourself out loud, how beautiful, successful, intelligent, and capable you are. Repeat these qualities as well as anything else that comes to mind as often as you need to. Even if you don’t initially believe it. The more you practice speaking affirmations out loud, the more you will begin to believe in what you are saying. And your confidence and satisfaction with your own life will increase.
2) Celebrate what makes you unique. God took His time creating a masterpiece - you. He has given you everything you need to be successful and to accomplish your goals. You are "fearfully and wonderfully made" (Psalms 139:14 KJV). I strongly recommend repeating this scripture out loud whenever you need a little extra encouragement.
3) Write down all of your positive character traits and keep your list where you can quickly access it in case you need to refer back to it in the future.
4) Remind yourself that you don't know what trials someone had to face in order to get where they are. Nor do you really know what happens behind closed doors.
5) Focus on yourself and your goals rather than using your energy to worry about what someone else has in addition to whether or not they are more successful than you. If you’re not careful, you can waste a lot of energy that could be geared towards achieving your goals on foolishness. And worse of all, you waste precious time out of your life that you will never get back.
6) Trust God's plan and timing which are both always perfect. His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are not our thoughts (Isaiah 55:8 KJV). His ways and His thoughts are much greater than we could ever fathom.
7) Be amazing, be you, and be grateful for your life. It is the only life you get. Life is what you make it.
As you are scrolling through social media feeds, I strongly encourage you to take the images and posts you see with a grain of salt. Do yourself a favor by not getting caught up in the comparison game. In doing so, you will certainly be on your way to perfecting your peace. 😌
Until next time my Luvs.